![]() As Winston Churchill once said: “If you are going through hell, keep going”. Trust me, staying stuck where you are can be more painful than the risks you’ll take to change your situation. In my experience, clients in abusive relationships really had a tendency to struggle with this. Where they were was not good, but they knew what to expect, and the risk of change felt scarier than dealing with what they knew. Their pain was predictable. Change is scary. Through their sessions with me, they discover that pushing through, into the unknown can lead them to great personal growth, and necessary change in their life. It is true that any action, is better than no action. Progress over perfection.ģ- The “end” of situation is often followed by this messy middle I call “the limbo”. You may feel like you’re not who you used to be and at the same time that you’re not clear about the person you want to become. The confusion can send your head spinning and the pain can cut like a knife. When my husband of twenty years left me, my life took a steep turn in a direction I could never have imagined. As I worked my way through it, I emerged through the other side, not only stronger than I ever knew I could be, but having found my true calling in life-which is helping others to reinvent themselves during a traumatic time in their life. I have also been blessed with new, wonderful community of friends. So next time you feel like your life has completely derailed, ask yourself: “What good reason may there be for this happening for me now?”Ģ- “Tunnels” are an essential part of life. Entering and going through a tunnel is the only thing that creates change within us. Sometimes, change can be so scary, that it paralyzes us into a state of inaction. During this state of change, it’s so important for us to remember that all it takes to make it though the tunnel is putting one foot in front of the other to keep moving forward. It may seem like going through a change is taking way too long, and the journey is way too dark. When it feels impossible to see the any light in sight, stay strong. Remember that it takes extreme courage to embark on something new. ![]() I have travelled through my fair share of“tunnels” in my lifetime…As someone who has been there too, I’d like to share a five insights with you:ġ- When you’re in a place that you thought was “it” for you in life, when you believe you have found your sense of direction, you will suddenly find yourself at an unexpected set of crossroads. One that you never asked for or wanted. Happiness is about enjoying even the little, seemingly insignificant moments on your journey through this “tunnel.” Because, guess what? You may be in it for a while. And, wouldn’t it be great if you could really, truly start appreciating and enjoying every moment of it? The moments of joys of smile and joy, as much as those of sorrow and sadness. But no one thing in-and-of-itself is the key to happiness. I’m not saying that goals, and aspiring to those things is not important. The one that dangles itself in front of you, telling you if only you had the promotion/raise/perfect relationship/perfect health then life would be perfect. This light you might be looking for is not "at the end of the tunnel”. Sometimes, life has a way of surprising us in not-so-pleasant-ways. Sometimes it just plain sucks. Through all that I have faced these past few years, I have learned to keep my head held high, my heart open, and to keep a genuine smile on my face. Happiness is not the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel. Let me completely honest when I tell you that, there is NO light at the end of the tunnel! You, know. More recently, I met a great man. I fully believed that it was developing into a meaningful, long-term, relationship. It was only after I fully opened myself up to him he disappeared completely from my life from one day to the next. It’s true that life can, and will, hand each of us a few lemons to deal with. I just feel grateful that the lemons I got handed are not of the sourest kind and that I have been so far been able to create the sweetest lemonade in this bittersweet life. ![]() I wanted to have a big family, a loving husband and live close to the many people I loved. My marriage ended up in a divorce. I got terrible post-partum depression, which forced me to stop growing my family at baby number two. And I ended up moving to the United States, leaving most of my loved once behind in France and Israel. As I was a little girl, I always wanted to help others. After graduating from high school at just 15 years old, I tried to become a doctor. Unfortunately, I never got to pass my med school exam.
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